You can spot them in any team. They have that special ”something” that makes them distinct. ‘Thinking’ what is it? The Direction- The belief that they have, the ability to do things well or deal with situations successfully. The awareness of their own abilities! Their motive! Their present and past success ! Their ability to make things count in their own fate! In a word-CONFIDENCE.
Most people think that the great successful individuals in the world are just naturally supremely confident. People like Tony Robbins, Donald Trump, Jack Canfield, Tom Cruise etc. Many think “If only I have the confidence and self belief of them, then I’ll can be just as successful as him/her”. People believe that these successful people are naturally confident, 100% sure of themselves and do not have any doubts.
That is not true. No matter how smart, successful, talented or capable someone is, no one is absolutely free of doubt. There is the possibility success and failure in every situation. Michael Jordan has doubts, so does Einstein, Leonardo Da Vinci, Nelson Mandela and everyone else.
Confidence is also taking your present situation, what ever challenge you are facing; what ever difficulty you might be in or you have encountered; what ever chronic condition that wears you down or keeps you subjected; or whatever has smashed your dreams or what ever negative factor that has made you admit under pressure- saying : ‘I can’t do it’ , ‘I can’t cope’ has made you loose that confidence. As soon as you say those words, you are:
•contradicting the promises of Gods in your life.
So therefore keep up to the challenge. In an ado you’ll be out of it smiling with the confidence built in you. Confidence means having the ability to stand up to any test.
There are also pressing questions asked. About two weeks ago was talking to a friend and he said he wants to be more confident like 100% confidence in everything and asked what he could do!, I smiled and told him ‘never to throw away his confidence’ he was suprised and asked HOW? I further explained by letting him know that by getting more confidence he could loose the initial beneficial confidence in him, and the confidence for evil could refrain or erupt because in certain occasions over-confidence kills.
To maintain a skilled positive confidence, do these three things:
1. Surround yourself with confidence-builders not confidence-murderers or busters: no confidence could give you ”The Charlie Browns Complex” one day lucy put her hands on her hips and said to charlie ‘ you charlie are a full-ball on the line-drive of life! You are a 5th putt on the 18th green! You are a dropped rod and a reel in the lake of fire. Have I made myself clear?? She asked. No wonder Charlie Brown struggled! Don’t let anybody wash your confidence away with their busty tounge. If you want to be confident surround yourself with the people who bring out the best in you.
2. Establish your worth according to Gods value system, not men value system or the World’s:
God demonstrated your importance in two major ways
*He created you in his own image- which means you have creative abilities.
*He sent his son to redeem you. That makes you priceless
Those two unconditional truths should be the enduring basis of your confidence.
3. Quit comparing yourself with others: in my last post, which talks about value and self esteem, brings an intermediate relevance to confidence. Comparism only leaves you goalless and if para venture you achieve those goals, it comes along with problems, and it makes you feel rather inadequate . You are more than equal to the challenge.
Discover your gift, develop it, and use it confidently 🙂
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